Do you still believe in love? Share your thoughts below. Here are my thoughts: I think love has been misrepresented. We're taught that love is a fairytale. That'll it'll come and sew our wounds shut. It'll grant us all the wishes we've long harbored. It'll fix every problem we have. . . But love isn't this cure-all. While it is beautiful, it takes a lot of work. A lot of time. It involves so many challenges and hurdles, and it forces us to re-examine all the inner problems we suppressed. It makes us come to terms with our imperfections and the way we have to address them for the sake of our partner. Love has to be respected. It has to be cultivated with hours of listening, devotion, and tending to. . . Above anything, love, to me, is real. But it doesn't exist in the form we think it does. It isn't the butterflies and the overwhelming excitement. It's the quiet comfort we feel. The smooth, healthy connection we've forged after months of dedication and openness. It can be ours. We just have to work for it.
Here's a personal story: When I began my writing journey, many people didn't take it seriously. In fact, a few people mocked me. One guy went as far as calling me a horrid name that I refuse to put on here. Those words are still with me today. Seared into my mind. I carry them as a reminder. Every time I want to quit, I remember why I do this. . . I went through hell and back to get this page to where it is today. And I'll be damned if anyone thinks that they can take this from me. That they can berate the work I put in. I do this for myself and for all of you. For the love of writing. For the chance to make the world around me better and more hopeful. . . And all of you can do the same. Not everyone around you will understand or support your journey. Ignore them. This path is for you to walk. Walk it proudly. With confidence. With vigor. With steps so proud that the Earth will shake. You don't need people to see your vision. You need to see it and create it. You are the architect of your own greatness. Remember that.
Not all endings are the end. Let me explain. Even if something or someone is leaving your life, there are two great possibilities: A: a chance for you to recreate yourself; and B: a chance for that person or that opportunity to come back at a better time. When things are right. When you can be more of you and the situation is a better fit. .. . We often associate endings with destruction. And to an extent, I get it. An ending is the destruction of what we currently know. But it's also a rebirth of a newer us and more exciting chances. Chances to love fuller and to grow wiser. Don't give up on your dreams. Success, love, and happiness are far closer than you think.
It all adds up. The pain. The heartache. The regret. These moments teach you what it means to be human. What it means to seek. What it means to lose and to build with rubble. . . There is no way to build character without struggling. Every experience contributes to where you are today. Every heartbreak you've encountered has laid a step for you to walk on. There can be no greatness without the pain that crafted it. And yes. It's miserable at times. . . But it's so rewarding when we see that our minds and our hearts are capable of far more than we imagined. You will get the love you deserve because you've persevered to do so. Sending all of you love and light. We're going to get through this together. ❤️
I can't tell you how many times this has happened to me. And the worst part? They'll blame you. They'll feed you all sorts of excuses. That you should have tried harder. That they were busy. Or that you didn't reach out enough. Don't feed into it. You know who you are. You know the effort and the care you invest in others. If they don't match it, let them walk. The more you tolerate mediocrity, the more you'll get it.
If you're waiting for the "perfect" moment, you're going to spend the rest of your life doing nothing. Being motionless, like a statue. You will never pursue anything. Nothing is perfect. No opportunity will be doubt free. Nor will it come without risk. But we can go forward anyway. . . It doesn't have to be perfect for you to desire it. Many people and opportunities will come to us incomplete. But we can still improve them. And we can still enjoy them. If you see that an opportunity has more potential than risk, take it. Enjoy it. Let it excite you. Work at it and build it from the ground up. You don't need perfection. You need effort and hope. The rest will handle itself.
This piece was inspired by a DM I received. Many people shame themselves for struggling. For hurting. For simply being human. It is OK to struggle. To hurt. To cry and feel lost. The process of becoming who you're meant to be is difficult. It involves a lot of strain. But you'll get there. Beyond the tears. Beyond the pain. Beyond the hurt. Your new self will be there.
You need bad days just as much as you need good days. They teach you strength and appreciation. They kick you into shape and push you to be better. Your struggles aren't your enemies. They're lessons of enlightenment with hands that will take you to new heights. Learn and move forward 💙
This is an oldie. But it's important to reiterate. When you're invested in someone, understand that they're going to have bad days. They're going to frown. Yell. Start fights. Say mean things and push you away. They'll seem like someone completely different. But that doesn't mean that you walk away. When a relationship or a partner becomes more difficult, you don't run. You don't turn away. You stand there and face it. You hand out extra love. You learn more and you hang onto the person whom you adore that is still in there. The person that's chained in misery, waiting for you to set them free. Your love will liberate them. Don't only expect good days. Expect the bad ones. Desire the bad times just as much as the good times. That's where you find the true composition of a person and your relationship with them. Lastly, rememeber that you, too, are human. You've messed up. You've done the wrong things and pushed people away. Remember how much you regretted your mistakes and how badly you coveted another's understanding. Let us love in the way we want to be loved. Let us support in the way we want to be supported. And let us fight for one another in the way we want to be fought for.
Every single thing comes with a price. It doesn't matter what it is. You want a job? You've got to go through the hiring process. You want to write a good book? You've got to go through a rigorous editing process. You want love? You've got to be willing to stand in the thunderstorms. Nothing good comes without trial. Accept that. P.S.: I also released a new podcast episode today! See the link in my story!